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12:28 PM, 04 Aug 2008 by Laura Smithburg Byrne | Permalink
I had a concert in Rockport ME in the 70s where I performed the Debussy Danses with the Vermeer String Quartet. After the concert, some students came up to me and told me that they loved my performance but if Miss Chalifoux found out they had attended my concert, they would be expelled from the Harp colony...wow. My recording of that concert with the Vermeer quartet was aired on NPR for many years after that horrible occasion. God rest her soul, but I need rest as well from that abusive interaction. Harpists should not be this way to one another - ever - it is counter-productive. I will never forget that abusive commentary and neither will her students who tried to come to my performance. Remember, remember...those who we think are nice are not necessarily so.... Susan Allen
by Susan Allen on 08/05/08
Thank you,Laura, for your thoughtful words. Like the rest of us, Alice Chalifoux was not perfect. But for those of us who knew and loved her, the memories of her good qualities- of which there were many- are what remain. Paula Page
by Paula Page on 08/06/08
Kudos to Laura Smithberg Byrne on her insightful and beautiful narrative about our beloved, Alice Chalifoux! While we mourn the loss of this great teacher, performer, mentor, colleague and friend of the harp world, our wonderful and cherished memories sustain us. Lisa Wellbaum Geber
by Lisa Wellbaum Geber on 08/06/08
I had the privilege of studying with Alice Chalifoux both in Camden, Maine and in Cleveland, Ohio and am now working as a mental health therapist. The tribute you have written, Laura, is outstanding and captures the Alice Chalifoux we know and love. I find extreme comfort in hearing the words of fellow Chalifoux students at this time of our great loss. What amazes me is that during this time of mourning for Alice Chalifoux's family, colleagues, friends, and students, others are using this blog to feature themselves center stage and holding on to seeds of bitterness from 30 years ago. I was especially struck by Susan Allen's words, "Remember...those who we think are nice are not necessarily so...." Laurie Vassallo
by Laurie Vassallo on 08/06/08
As owner and founder of the Harp Column Community (www.harpcolumn.com), editor of Harp Column, and a long time student of Alice Chalifoux, I too would like to thank Laura Byrne for her touching words and comments about Alice Chalifoux. I am shocked and dismayed that anyone would use this space as a place for negative thoughts about someone who has so recently passed away. Although it is very tempting for me to remove such comments, I am adhering to our policy of not censoring opinions posted on www.harpcolumn.com. I would, however, like issue a personal request to use this space in the nature for which it was intended. To do otherwise shows a stunning lack of courtesy and is disrespectful of our community. Kim Rowe
by Kimberly Rowe on 08/07/08
Laura, thank you so much for your tribute. I, too, am saddened by the loss of this great lady, and will always remember and be thankful for the time I spent as her student. I am beyond shocked at the utter lack of class and respect of someone who would post a comment denigrating a beloved teacher on a site which strives to highlight and uplift the harp community as a whole. Coming while her family, students, and many others are mourning is offensive and vulgar. Kim, thanks for your site and your words. I would suggest that you could alter your policy just this once, but I respect your decision. Lynne Abbey-Lee
by Lynne Abbey-Lee on 08/07/08
I knew Alice for over 25 years, although I never studied with her. I would bring rental harps up to Camden just after Memorial day and pick them up at the end of August. Alice always invited me to stay over night, which I frequently did. By the way, she insisted I call her Alice. We got along great, even though we didn't see eye to eye on schools of playing. We both figured out early on that it would be best to avoid certain harp topics. I always found her to be warm, very funny, intelligent, and very caring. She was generous to a fault. She told me many wonderful stories and some very juicy gossip that I don't think anyone else ever heard! But I was fully aware that, where harp playing and technique was concerned, she was totally intolerant of any way but her own. Is that a criticism? No. She was a complicated person and that's just the way she was. After the Camden house was sold and she moved to Virginia, I kept track of her through friends who had studied with her. But I didn't go to see her. I wanted to remember her the way she was up in Camden and not watch her slow and sad decline. I will always think of her there, standing on the porch in Camden as I pulled into the driveway on a gorgeous crisp clear sunny day, the bay sparkling in the sunlight, and little tiny white haired Alice waiting to greet me and to catch up on the latest gossip and bawdy jokes. Or sitting in the attic living room late at night, her feet proped up and arms crossed, as we watched the news together and she dropped precious tidbits about her life in the harp world. Goodbye Alice. I will truly miss you.
by Carl Swanson on 08/07/08
While it may seem a bit soon, I see no point in failing to acknowledge that Miss Chalifoux had strong opinions. As a dyed-in-the-wool Salzedo protege, just as did Miss Lawrence, she had strong likes and dislikes, as far as I know. Such a comment as the students made is a reflection of their fierce protectiveness of their student's development in impressionable years, and the development of their way of hearing the harp. Hearing an excellent performance by a non-Salzedo player at that time could prove confusing, or at least provoke a lot of discussion and explanation instead of playing during lessons. Miss Chalifoux was also known to swear and tell off-color jokes, though she would never do so in my lessons, to my regret. It is part of what people loved about her. It is painful for Susan to have had that experience, but hey, they came and listened, even if surreptitiously, so she ought to be pleased for that. I say, celebrate everything about the wonderful departed woman, and not be hush-mouthed. After all, what do you think she would say? I hear "Fiddlesticks!" echoing, myself.
by saul davis on 08/22/08
I studied with Alice Chalifoux both at the Salzedo Harp Colony in Camden, Maine and at Oberlin. I first met her when I was just 14 years old. I remember when she met me at the airport in Portland, Maine and drove me up to Camden. She had a huge impact on my life. She gave me more than just harp lessons, she became a dear friend. I loved her very much, and I will miss her greatly. She was an amazing woman! Laura, your tribute was perfect! It painted a beautiful picture of who this woman was. She will be missed by so many people that she touched so deeply. Goodbye Miss Chalifoux, and thank you for EVERYTHING!
by Heidi O'Gara Jellison on 09/13/08
I had the privilege of studying with Alice Chalifoux for 16 consecutive summers, beginning in 1985. I can't conceive of the word "abusive" being used in conjunction with her name for any reason. I'm sorry that Susan Allen was hurt by comments made by students thirty years ago, and wonder that a seasoned professional such as herself, playing the Debussy Danses with the Vermeer Quartet, would place any credibility in such comments. To have suffered in silence all this time over a comment that can not now be proven to be true or otherwise is needless. To choose this moment to bring it to light, as so many of us are grieving her passing, is thoughtless, damaging, and disturbing. The Alice Chalifoux that I knew encouraged her students to attend as many concerts and recitals as one could, believing that the more exposure one had to different forms of music by different performers added to the total learning experience and made one a better all-round musician. I agree with Susan, though, that we harpists ought to work harder at finding reasons to bring us all together in encouragement and support, but bringing up an old hurt occasioned by students thirty years ago seems like a bad example to start with.
by Wallace Ford on 10/03/08